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David Graniewitz's avatar

Thanks for writing this. This is exactly how I feel. Since 7th October 2023, my 2 sons and my son-in-law have all done around 250 days of active service each. My SIL is in at the moment and when he finishes PG, my 2 sons will have to leave their families and jobs to do 10 weeks of miluim. I thought I was doing a lot when I had to do 40 days a year, every year, when I was a combat reservist. Back then we also moaned about the fact that the burden wasn't being shared equally. Today though, the feeling is that we can't carry on like this any longer. I find it difficult to get on with my brother at the moment whose sons and sons-in-law have avoided military service by going to Yeshivah. I had it out with him a few months ago. I know that he is not too comfortable with the whole situation as he was in a combat unit (as was our late father who fought in the War of Independence) but still I find it difficult to relate to my nephews and nephews in law as I hold them partially responsible for the fact that my own sons and SIL have to shoulder the burden that they have shirked.

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it is obviously extremely hard to have a son fighting, and risking his life, and I am extremely sympathetic and grateful. But the fact that your son is doing it is not logically a reason why a Charedi has to make the same sacrifice and have the same worry about their sons. Your argument is not logical; its purely emotional. Charedim are not forcing your son to serve; their perspective is that anyone who wants to learn Torah all day should be able to. They're completely consistent. Your world chooses to combine learning and service, and you do that because you want to, and you believe it's right. If it's too painful to have sons fighting, then send them to Yeshivas that aren't Hesder. Or start pushing to stop the draft entirely. But you obviously feel that it's worth it, and that's your right, but Charedim are entitled to feel differently as long as they're not being inconsistent. It is illogical when you scapegoat the Charedim for not having the same worries about their kids that you do for yours. That might resonate emotionally, but is actually not compelling at all.

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