I have many Chabad friends and none of them are Anti-Zionist. In fact many of them care deeply about our chayalim. They pray for them, they donate. In fact there are Chabadniks serving in the IDF and doing National Service. Unlike the Charedi who separate themselves from the rest of Am Yisrael, Chabad does the opposite, engaging with Jews from the most secular who know nothing about Judaism to those on the opposite side of spectrum. The beauty of Chabad is that they don’t judge and believe all Jews have a Jewish spark in them.
My mind is going to Chabadniks. I would personally classify them as "non-zionist in name only," because as far as I can tell, their hashgagak is practically aligned with the continued existence and support for the State of Israel, and to the extent they disagree, it is because the state of Israel is not expressing Judaism enough.
Practically speaking, from what I understand, although they wouldn't want to be in Frontline combat units, they would want to be there with the soldiers.
I am usually very turned off by your harsh approach to charedim, despite my own frustration with so much in their community. However, I found this post to be a positive exception. I will say that the problem with your idea is how it plays out: You tell your charedi cousin that you can't come to the wedding unless they acknowledge the soldiers/war, etc. His response undoubtedly would be either to ask the mesader kidushin if this is acceptable or to anticipate the answer. Too often, the answer will be no, even if your cousin agrees with the idea. Is it helpful to put him and your relationship and your whole family's relationships (everyone in the family will surely have strong opinions about this and will often end up fighting with each other, including dati leumi among themselves and charedim among themselves, at risk of sinas chinam that can last for years? What if this idea is promoted and a husband and wife fight about whether to skip her cousin's or friend's wedding? Ultimately, this is a deeply terrible idea.
If you want to do something at weddings, print a brochure with pictures and stories of weddings of chayalim showing the emotion, Emunah and heroism that is solely positive but that is titled something like Mazel tov on your simcha. Please remember others whose simcha is not as pleasant. Then put this on the windshields of all the cars in the parking lot (or if most people didn't come in cars, hand them out or put them out as best you can without even slightly risking a scene that will at all mar the simcha). But NEVER EVER get in a fight with anyone, even if they go taking them off the windshields or whatever. Weddings MUST be 100% about the chosson and kallah first. The success of their marriage, in enough situations, really depends on it.
I have a better idea. Tell your charedi hosts you will come but you don't eat their hechahers and will only eat Rabbanut. Of course, no charedi wedding hall will get them Rabbanut meals and they will find the whole idea crazy and try to.comvince you otherwise. Then you get the opportunity to ask them if it's crazier than the special meals they have always insisted upon at your functions and if it's crazier than those who think they are closest to Hashem refusing to fight for Am Yisrael
I have many Chabad friends and none of them are Anti-Zionist. In fact many of them care deeply about our chayalim. They pray for them, they donate. In fact there are Chabadniks serving in the IDF and doing National Service. Unlike the Charedi who separate themselves from the rest of Am Yisrael, Chabad does the opposite, engaging with Jews from the most secular who know nothing about Judaism to those on the opposite side of spectrum. The beauty of Chabad is that they don’t judge and believe all Jews have a Jewish spark in them.
My mind is going to Chabadniks. I would personally classify them as "non-zionist in name only," because as far as I can tell, their hashgagak is practically aligned with the continued existence and support for the State of Israel, and to the extent they disagree, it is because the state of Israel is not expressing Judaism enough.
Practically speaking, from what I understand, although they wouldn't want to be in Frontline combat units, they would want to be there with the soldiers.
I am usually very turned off by your harsh approach to charedim, despite my own frustration with so much in their community. However, I found this post to be a positive exception. I will say that the problem with your idea is how it plays out: You tell your charedi cousin that you can't come to the wedding unless they acknowledge the soldiers/war, etc. His response undoubtedly would be either to ask the mesader kidushin if this is acceptable or to anticipate the answer. Too often, the answer will be no, even if your cousin agrees with the idea. Is it helpful to put him and your relationship and your whole family's relationships (everyone in the family will surely have strong opinions about this and will often end up fighting with each other, including dati leumi among themselves and charedim among themselves, at risk of sinas chinam that can last for years? What if this idea is promoted and a husband and wife fight about whether to skip her cousin's or friend's wedding? Ultimately, this is a deeply terrible idea.
If you want to do something at weddings, print a brochure with pictures and stories of weddings of chayalim showing the emotion, Emunah and heroism that is solely positive but that is titled something like Mazel tov on your simcha. Please remember others whose simcha is not as pleasant. Then put this on the windshields of all the cars in the parking lot (or if most people didn't come in cars, hand them out or put them out as best you can without even slightly risking a scene that will at all mar the simcha). But NEVER EVER get in a fight with anyone, even if they go taking them off the windshields or whatever. Weddings MUST be 100% about the chosson and kallah first. The success of their marriage, in enough situations, really depends on it.
We still have your Purim donation letter on our door. And we do not contribute to loved ones' kollel campaigns and explain why.
I have a better idea. Tell your charedi hosts you will come but you don't eat their hechahers and will only eat Rabbanut. Of course, no charedi wedding hall will get them Rabbanut meals and they will find the whole idea crazy and try to.comvince you otherwise. Then you get the opportunity to ask them if it's crazier than the special meals they have always insisted upon at your functions and if it's crazier than those who think they are closest to Hashem refusing to fight for Am Yisrael