Our Children's Lives
A friend of mine mentioned something to me which I found it so thought-provoking that I would like to share it with you, with some literary embellishment. I'm not certain if it is 100% gold, or if it is too defeatist. He said as follows:
"I used to hope, pray and expect that my children would all grow to be religious, get married and raise a family. That's what my parents got, and that's what I expected, too.
"As time went on and I realized that the world had changed since my parents' generation, it occurred to me that perhaps I was being presumptuous. It's too much to expect that all my children would stay religious; all I can pray and expect is that they get married and raise a family.
"Then as time went on further, I realized that even this was presumptuous. Halevay (it would suffice that) they should at least end up in healthy meaningful long-term relationships with the opposite gender that bring them happiness, even if they don't get married.
"Then, as I further realized that the world is not as I thought when I grew up, I realized that I was still being presumptuous. Even if my children end up in same-gender relationships, I'd be relieved if they are in relationships that bring them happiness, rather than being tortured in their identity or suffering in solitude.
"Then, as the years went on, I realized that there was something still more basic that I couldn't take for granted. Halevay that my boys should grow up happy being boys, and my girls should grow up happy being girls.
"Then, after a spate of young adult suicides in my city, I realized that as long as my children grow up, with sufficient mental and physical health, then no matter who they are, I will treasure them and thank God for my good fortune."
What do you think? An essential perspective, or should we not lose focus on trying to instill our values in our children?
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